March 2012
18 posts
February 2012
21 posts
What are we even fighting for?
Are we as a community fighting for:
There is no masculine. There is no feminine. There are just social constructs.
Or…
Women can be masculine. Men can be feminine. Everyone can do what they please.
There is no inbetween when distinguishing what the fight is about. Either we accept the constructs of masculine and feminine and accept people of all genders who displays traits for...
Forever: Young
People are all about being forever young. “Live fast, die young” are the words they live by. They’ve got the living fast part down, but what about dying young? Not quite.
When Michael Jackson died, people noted how young he was. Same with every other celebrity. Whitney Houston was the latest.
I don’t knock people for living fast. You could die within the next five...
Beyonce: a rant
Beyonce (somewhat) recently had an interview with Chris Azzopardi of PrideSoource.com. Throughout the few short minutes it took to read said interview, my respect for Beyonce as a person went from an eight to a negative three.
During the interview, Beyonce claimed she feels she’s “one” with the LGBT community. The reason? Because she has gay stylists, makeup artists, and is familiar with...
#QuestionsThatNeedAnswers: White validation of...
Black women want their beauty validated in White America, yet when a White finds them attractive it must be a fetish. By “validated,” I mean Black women want to be portrayed as beautiful in White American media (even though Black American media does that, but I guess it’s not good enough). I also want to know why being validated as beautiful in Black media isn’t enough....
Secret #4: I have a mental love story.
Without going into much detail, it involves meeting someone in an unlikely place, dating for a long time, taking forever to say the three dreaded words, staying together longer, toying with the idea of marriage but realizing that we both oppose it, possibly having kids (or him already having kids and them just loving me to bits), having a strong bond, and lasting no matter what.
Cliche, right?
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On: conscious choosings
Becoming more conscious and aware of the way society governs lives often causes me to analyze the way I lead my life. For example, I question my transition and why I felt it necessary to “create a new person” when gender is nothing but a social construct. I’ve also questioned why I am attracted to the type of people I am, why I want my body to look a certain way, and why...
Criticism: women vs men
Excerpts from a recent conversation I had with derangedjane after she asked:
Why are women so much more receptive to criticism and judgement than men (seemingly) are? This seems to be a recurring issue. If one woman says that she finds body hair disgusting to a crowd of men, none of them will take issue with it. If one man says that he finds body hair disgusting, many of those women will...
(Black American Princesses)
Unfortunately, I must admit that I was once the type of Black person who hated all things “ghetto.” I once felt as though the gold teeth, loud hair, and Ebonics set our culture back to the pre-Civil Rights era.
As I watched “B.A.P.S” for the first time in years, I realized something. My thoughts have changed extraordinarily.
People hate “B.A.P.S” because of...
Marriage, Schmarriage
Gay people wanna get married. I just wanna be able to use the public restroom without getting my ass beat for being in the “wrong bathroom.” —http://trans-doc.tumblr.com
This is exactly why I couldn’t care less about gay marriage. While yes, couples who have been together for years deserve to be just as miserable in marriage as their heterosexual counterparts—there are more...
Quick thought on: abrupt endings + trust
Ever had one of those friendships that comes to an abrupt halt? That happened recently. Due to my philosophy on friendships I’m not feeling any sort of way about it. It is what it is, so that’s not what this is about.
It’s just interesting. It was a friendship that I thought would last much longer than what it did, and for that reason I revealed what turned out to be too much...
Secret #3: I've never had an intimate experience.
This might sound odd. I suppose it is. But, I’ve never been intimate with a person. At least not my definition of intimate. I’ve never been given anything other than a platonic hug or kiss. I’ve never cuddled. I’ve never stayed up all night revealing things about myself. I’ve never felt the comfort and safety of laying under a blanket with a significant other....
On: transracialism
…people can feel like they were born in the wrong bodies right, we call this transgender but what if people feel like they were born in the wrong race would that be transracial is that a thing? and is it respected? am i behind the times? I seriously just wondered about this…?
—patrontruths
When I initially saw this question, my immediate response was, “No! That’s...
On: Black fashion
Air Force Ones, baby hairs, du-rags, black lip liner, Kangol hats, nameplate necklaces and belt buckles, finger waves, Coogi sweaters. Remember those days?
I took part in most of that 1990s-inspired craziness. Good times. As I’ve gotten older, though, I’ve lost interested in being “hip” to the latest Black fashion trends. The entire look of the style no longer interests...
Something: about us
When I find out (what I would consider to be) an extremely personal detail about someone, it’s often on my mind when I see them. Not in a negative or judgmental way, though.
I just wonder what being “different” has made their life like. I know that struggle very, very well. I know how one small, seemingly insignificant detail about yourself can thwart all attempts to live in the...
Your face is a social construct.
No, really. It is. Everything about it has been socially constructed in some way or another. Hence why you (generally) look like everyone else. And it’s that way for a reason. Not to say that everything that has been socially constructed is that way for a reason, or even that it shouldn’t be changed. But your face, your face…it has been socially constructed. Does this upset you?
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More thoughts on: erasure of experience
I am annoyed.
My experiences as anything other than a 5’5, 120 lb, Black gay man in the state of Washington have been erased. Despite having been nearly every gender identity and sexual orientation under the sun, I have been told I am not allowed to speak on certain situations. Why? Because currently I lead my life as a “less” oppressed individual. Prior oppression...
“The idea that the world hasn’t always been like it is today—in fact, where...”
– Steven Conn, Dinosaur Wars
Pre-thought: erasure of experience
Does the fact that I transitioned from (society’s definition of) female to male erase my experience as someone who was once viewed as a woman, and thus treated as such? Does my transition to a more comfortable identity mean that I am no longer in a place to be able to identify with situations pertaining to women? Does the fact that I now identify as a man mean my two cents in discussions...
“I’m really scared for my generation, you know. The thing that scares me most is...”
– Drake
Humans: I
I don’t understand what pride and satisfaction humans get from harming one another. How does a group of grown men stand by and watch a fellow man get beaten senseless (literally) for verbal conflict. Then, when the senseless man is able to stand up, he’s bleeding from his head. And what does everyone do? Laugh. They take his shoes and laugh.
How sick does one have to be to find that...